Magic mirror on the wall, who is the fairest one of all?
– Snow White and the Seven Dwarfs
Has your mirror been talking to you lately? What has it been saying? Okay, obviously I don’t mean literally, but do you let your mirror tell you who you are?
We may not actually have talking mirrors hanging on our walls (Thank goodness!), but I do believe we are ‘hearing’ what they are ‘saying’ to us.
One girl might stand in front of the mirror and ‘hear’: “You’re fat! Too bad you don’t have a skinny body like so-and-so.”
Another girl might ‘hear’: “Where are your curves, girl? Too bad you didn’t fully develop. If only you wore a larger bra size.”
“You will never be beautiful. Just look at your face! You have too many imperfections…” After gazing in our mirrors long enough we start to believe exactly what we ‘hear’.
What if the sun looked at the moon and said, “I guess that’s what I look like. I thought I shined a little brighter, but reflections don’t lie.” How silly would that be? We know for a fact that the moon cannot fully reflect the sun. Yet, it’s not any sillier than you looking in the mirror and thinking that you see the full you. The moon can only reflect a small fraction of the sun’s light. Your mirror can only reflect a small fraction of your beauty.
Please, don’t let a reflection of your body tell you who you are. You are so much more than what you are seeing in that sheet of glass. Don’t fall into the trap of not being pleased with how God made you!
You are probably thinking “Oh, I know where you’re going with this. My true beauty lies within…bla,bla,bla…” But please hear me out for a moment (or however it takes for you to read the rest of this post).
Ask any girl to describe herself to you. Most likely she will began by describing her outer looks. But what if we had never seen a reflection of ourselves? How would we describe ourselves? If we could only view ourselves from the inside, I imagine our definition of beauty might change a bit.
How many people in life will be remembered for outward beauty alone? Most people in history who we look up to and esteem weren’t the most pretty, appealing or popular individuals of their time. What has immortalized them?
True beauty. Acts of kindness, love, sacrifice, integrity, dedication and character. They chose to be beautiful.
Do we remember Esther only because she was beautiful? Or was it for the beautiful thing she did? How about Joan of Arc? Mother Teresa? Ruth? Mary?
Yes, these women were remembered for beauty. But not the kind of beauty that this world tries so hard to push on us. I believe true beauty is in each and every one of us. Like a small seed, beauty is something to be cultivated and developed by God’s grace.
I want women to get in there with the men in humility before God, not primping before a mirror or chasing the latest fashions but doing something beautiful for God and becoming beautiful doing it. (1 Timothy 2:10 MSG)
It’s not that we shouldn’t spend any time trying to look our best outwardly, but when that is where we invest the majority of our time – we are going to be sadly disappointed. It says in Proverbs 31:30, that outward beauty will fade. It’s a fact. Find me one woman who has beaten time and never aged. Let’s face it. Youthful beauty only lasts a small fraction of life and we have a full life to live. We were created to be beautiful for our entire life, no matter the age.
I encourage you to take time and discover what truly makes you beautiful. Spend time learning about the beautiful women of our history, discover their beauty secrets. Take time to listen to the beautiful women in your life. Invest time into reading what God says about you in the Bible.
“Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.” Simply put, beauty is based on who is looking at it. We look at ourselves and tear ourselves down because we don’t look or feel beautiful enough, but who else is looking at us? Jesus is. What does He see when He looks at you? He sees a masterpiece (Eph 2:10). I think its time we stop listening to our mirrors and listen to what Jesus has to say about us.
You are altogether beautiful, my darling,
beautiful in every way. (Song of Solomon 4:7)